I’ve been following the web series Fatherhood, as I’ve mentioned. This week Episode 7 discusses “the birds and the bees”.
Did you ever get “the talk” from your parents?
I grew up with two sisters so my dad right away felt out-numbered by all the estrogen, I’m sure. He never gave us the talk.
That would’ve been baffling.
My mom is a registered nurse. She’s seen the worst in terms of all the bad things that can happen to a person’s health. Her first order of business – while never actually sitting us down to talk about “relations” (her word, not mine) – was to scare the crap out of us when it came to boys.
I didn’t kiss a boy until I was 13 because I thought I’d get herpes.
There was never a discussion about pregnancy or STDs. In school, the health teacher handed out pamphlets and took out her visual aids. I was completely grossed out by the human body and couldn’t imagine what it would be like to be naked with a guy.
Thankfully my mom never expanded on what we learned at school. I just sort of knew what not to do – Have sex!
I’m not sure this is the best approach, especially considering that kids today are becoming sexually active so much earlier. They need to be informed, don’t they? And a little fear isn’t a bad thing, either.
I was a late bloomer. I hadn’t met anyone I’d consider sleeping with until after high school, and even then I wasn’t rushing. It would happen when the time came and Yes! Yes! Yes! the time finally came. It’s a whole new, amazing world once you experience sex but I don’t think I would’ve been ready for it sooner than my first time.
Have you had the sex talk with your kids? If your kids are still little, what are planning to do – if you’ve even thought about it?
I’d like my kids to grow up knowing that it’s not a competition and there’s no score card. No belt notches to worry about. And that if it doesn’t feel right with whoever you’re with then you shouldn’t do it. Respecting your partner is a huge deal and I hope my husband conveys that to our boy. (Michael, are you reading this? I hope you’ve been preparing, Honey!)
I’m sure after giving them the details of what sex is and how babies are made (and most importantly how to protect themselves from cooties) I’ll say something like, Wait for the right person. It’s worth it. After which they’ll probably run away or avoid eye contact with me for the next few years.
Parenthood just keeps throwing challenges our way, doesn’t it?